Cohabiting

Cohabiting? 

This is when two people are living together as a couple but not married.

Cohabiting just like any other relationship it has its own advantages and disadvantages.

Firstly a couple will move in together, it will be all be lovey-dovey, sweet ,romantic... and all that ,everything top notch, so super the love will be in the air, i can imagine, love is a beautiful thing.

The couple will then talk about the furniture they want, how many kids they want(that's if they don't have kids already)and their spacing, finances and their future.

The diet they are going to follow oh! yeah living healthy, because food bring people close they sit down, chat ,relax enjoying each others company and creating memories together.

It is very important in any kind of relationship to talk about your past, be it your experiences, exes, family background, your up bringing, believes so that you can understand your partner a lot better more especially when living together.

Why couples decide to cohabit:

There are many reasons why couples cohabitate but i will name just a few:

Nowadays couple live together because it is a lot cheaper or i can say it is affordable imagine paying two rents, groceries basically two of everything and this new normal where so many people has lost their jobs due to Covid 19,the cost of living is too high. 

Sometimes couples move in together because they want grow close to each other for example: your partner can be this person whom after he/she makes a cup of tea they put the cup on top of the kitchen counter instead of washing it and put it nicely maybe that's how they are( habits). 

Some of the habits are, after a very long day of work your partner is the kind not to take a shower instead they jump straight to bed ask yourself what can i do as another party you try to be patient with them and encourage with love.

Most of the times if the couple is not staying together they only come to visit any other day  or on weekend that gives the couple a limited time so if they live together it give them time to bond.

Some of the disadvantages of Cohabiting and i will name a few as well:

Sometimes you can not be patient with the other partner ,maybe just focused on the flaws of one another not seeing the beauty of your relationship and failing to see what you guys bring good to each other or just the person in front of you.

Sometimes your partner maybe the person is supporting you be it financially, mentally, physically so on and on when you reflect on the relationship after a breakup, you can see that was an indeed a good relationship you were focused on things that really didn't matter at the time. 

Sometimes when you have an argument and not staying together you can pack your stuff and leave but if you are staying together you cant leave you are forced to resolve your issues and some are petty stuff this can cause a huge fight because of miscommunication .

Just living together it can be a handful at times, the fact that someone is taking your private space, can be stressful because you are used to staying alone and doing you and this can be overwhelming.

I personally think cohabiting is a great idea ,at the end of the day you will know if where you want to spend the rest of you days(marrying)that person or want to call it quits.